Early on in my spiritual journey I learned a very valuable lesson: flexibility is the key to happiness and inner peace.
Here’s what was happening to me so far:
I had expectations and I had plans. Everything was carefully planned to the day and the dollar.
However, like frisky, unpredictable puppies, neither my expectations nor my plans were falling in line with what I wanted.
I planned to sell my stock options at a price that would guarantee a two year sabbatical. The unpredictable stock market gave me one year (not too bad but still disappointing)
I desperately wanted to catch the Indo-Pacific bottlenose dolphins on a cruise in Singapore. The unpredictable dolphins never showed up.
I wanted my boyfriend to surprise me with flowers. The unpredictable man came home with Chinese takeaway.
Notice a pattern here? Yep, life, people, situations are unpredictable. All that crap from woo woo people I was hearing about ‘the only constant in life is change’ was ringing true like a church bell in my ears.
Don’t get me wrong. I TOTALLY see the value in making plans and structures. It provides us with a framework and compass to move forward with but it’s also important to be flexible and open to how things might turn out in the end. That way, like river water that encounters a rock, we can still move forward in the direction of our dreams but we’re not super hung up on the exact ending.
When we’re flexible, our inner peace is not held hostage by an outside source.
Flexible people are like palm tress.
In just a few weeks, hurricane season will begin in Florida. The state is home to millions of palm trees but the strongest winds or storms don’t break or uproot them. Palms bend, don’t break. (The less romantic explanation of this phenomenon is the fact that palms are structured like grass: winds might flatten them but they bounce right back). Even though they grow at the water’s edge, they remain steadfast, deeply rooted into the earth.
We can’t talk ourself into becoming more flexible. It’s not a mental shift. It’s an energetic one. Meditation creates those deep inner roots for us, so we can dance with the winds and reach for the sky.
Meditation makes us flexible.
Sometimes its good to let go of our plans and let the Universe/God/Spirit/Your Higher Self take over and guide you.
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This week ask yourself, and share in the comments below: where in your life can you be more flexible? Where can you infuse some space? What are you holding onto that is now safe to let go of?