Just say no.
Easier said than done, right? As women we are programmed to extend ourselves till we turn blue in the face (not to mention very resentful). Adding on chores, responsibilities and tasks into our life when our body, mind and heart are saying no is just another form of stress and overwhelm.
It clogs our creativity and clarity.
As managers and entrepreneurs this can be dangerous to our health and business. If we don’t have clarity about what to say NO to, we are drained of our energy to say YES to the right things as well.
I was an out-and-out “Yes” woman once. I said yes to everything: that side project at work no one else wanted to take on, the friend who needed a place to stay for a weekend (and stayed a month!), the cousin who needed money and forgot to return it. It (I) was a mess :O
How do you know if you’re doing what you don’t want to do?
Your vocabulary will tell you.
If you hear yourself saying such phrases as
“I have to”
“I’m supposed to”
“I have no choice…”
“We have to do what we have to do”
“If I don’t do it, it doesn’t get done”
These words are a sure sign that you’re doing something not because you want to, but because you feel it is expected of you. This is the root of your conflict—the gap between what you want to do and what you believe others want you to do.
When we can’t see the forest for the trees we lose perspective of what’s truly important and of value in our lives. (Tweet it)
The trick to adding more time to our lives is to identify our true north, and letting that compass guide our clock and our calendar. As Stephen Covey would say “Do the first things first!”. Here’s a video illustrating the power of this concept called “Big Rocks”
If you feel you’re spinning your wheels as you grow your business, I urge you to check out a free workshop my friend Veronica has put together called “Go from Do It Yourself to Doing It Fantastically”. I’m a speaker at this event and it has an incredible line-up of industry experts. You will learn how to:
- Stop Stressing Out
- Have your business automated
- Make More Time For Yourself and Your Family
- Learn about the shortcuts successful entrepreneurs have already done and model EXACTLY what they do.
Interested? Click here to learn more and sign up.